Mistress, I’m a Lifestyle Domme who has had very few chances to play lately due to a busy schedule. I’m familiar with sub drop and have always been sure to provide after care to my submissives when needed. Lately, it seems like a day or so after a scene, my energy levels plummet and I…
Unhappily Spanked
Dear Mistress, I’m a submissive who has recently introduced my boyfriend to BDSM. Being spanked is one of my fetishes. I had a Master in the past. With him, I was able to get spanked pretty hard by hand and with a few different paddles. My butt used to be sore for a couple days…
How Can You Tell if She’s a Real Domme?
“…finding a hooker instead of a pro Domme is one of the nicer mistakes you can make when you’re meeting sex workers from the seedier parts of the internet.”
Kinky Accessories
“Mistress, My husband and I are shopping for a few kinky accessories. We have a four post bed so some type of restraint will probably be easy to rig. What do you recommend for beginners like us? Our budget for the moment is about $200 but we’d like to be able to purchase a couple…
fetishist vs submissive
Mistress, I’m a little confused about some things I’ve heard vaguely referred to as “protocol”. I play with pros once in a while, mostly for foot worship, though I occasionally enjoy a little cross dressing. Nothing that would suggest a need for strictness or a lot of domination. Though some Mistresses seem insistent on maintaining…
gender and identity
We at askthedomme.com felt this letter was beyond our expertise and experience, so we asked a more qualified person to weigh in. Thank you! “I’m in a relationship with a woman who has decided to transition. Hormones for now, surgery in time. We’ve been together 6 years. She doesn’t care what I say or…
bdsm: not for revenge
“Mistress, I caught my boyfriend cheating with some bitch and I want to make him sorry. I was thinking I’d take him to see a Domme and let her just whale on him while I watch. No mercy until I say so. What do you think? Betrayed Belle in Birmingham” Belle, First, I’m sorry. …
earning a collar
“Dear Ma’am, How does one become a collared slave? It’s my wish to be in service to a Lady, or to a house of Ladies. In any capacity they would ask. I can’t afford to pay for sessions. But any time I call a dungeon or a Mistress and try to explain my situation, I’m…
hypocrisy?
“I am a natural dominant, but I try to give and take equally in any sexual relationship. One thing that kinda crosses the line with me is when my partner tries to assume dominance. Rather than allow them to take the reigns, I take the position back as the dominant role. I feel that a…
safe words
“Mistresses, Why are pro Dommes so adamant about using safe words? Why can’t they just use their own judgment? -a reader from Colorado” Reader: Gee, I don’t know…maybe because they’re unwilling to assume the responsibility for reading your mind? Q: How does a pro Domme know when her sub has had enough? A: the sub…
don’t be a jerk
“Mistress, I made a huge mistake. I told a buddy at the gym that the woman I was dating was a Domme. That was before she and I got serious. It was also before she told me that SHE wants to be the one to decide which of my friends gets to know what she does. The worst of…
sex work. yes, really.
“Mistress, Is it possible to be a pro Domme and only do the things I like? I’m considering learning to be a Domme so I can pay some bills, but a lot of the things they do are way more sexual than I’m comfortable with. Broke as a joke” Hello Broke, Is it possible…
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